Repost 📷 @mindfulcounseling Culturally, we ignore the ”feel”…

Repost 📷 @mindfulcounseling

Culturally, we ignore the ”feel” component. We’re taught to just deal with things and fix it: “move on,” “get over it,” “don’t be weak” are twisted versions of “dealing” that miss the mark.
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We also skip the feel & deal with the impatient demand of wanting to heal. We want immediate gratification. We want quick fixes.
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Sometimes, we just feel. We get stuck and fight the waves of emotion. We don’t let go. We don’t allow and accept the emotion, rather, we ruminate and fixate. We hold on.
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These three steps work together. Feeling is crucial. It means we’re alive. Learning to honor and make space for our emotions is uncomfortable for many of us who were taught emotions are weak. However, the paradox of “feel” is when we feel our emotions, they can go away.
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The “dealing” includes: forgiveness, self-compassion, journaling, communicating, conflict resolution, movement, meditation, mindfulness, and any action where you take accountability! Dealing isn’t blaming or ignoring, it’s putting your big girl panties on and doing the work.
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Heal. Don’t get it twisted, healing doesn’t mean you’re free from emotion. It does mean you’re free from suffering. Pain is inevitable, suffering is not! Suffering is resistance to pain! By feeling and dealing we allow the constant mindful flow of emotion. We allow ourselves to have liberation and escape the prison of contempt and self-sabotage. Healing is all about awareness, doing the work, being cool to ourselves, getting your own back, and doing it again and again.
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Feel • deal • heal —> the T. Roe model.
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Grab my most popular course, emotional regulation, to learn how to do this. My mindfulness course is an additional feel deal heal heavy hitter. Link in bio! #therapythoughts
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